Longcast, I fell your pain 100%. I am in the exact situation with my wifes brother who is 23. He was supposed to move in until he got on his feet and that was 2 years ago. He stays in my little boys room and comes home from work in the evenings, takes a shower, then leaves again to return at all different hours. He constantly uses my hunting and fishing stuff and does not take care of it. He pays nothing for rent or groceries but always eats and soaks up the electricity. He offered to take 3 or my deer I had in the freezer quartered up to get processed since he does not pay us anything and I was actually surprised. About 6 weeks go by and I still dont have the meat back and he said it was in a big cooler at the tractor barn where he farms at. I learned not to believe him so called the processor. The processor said he called him over 20 times and finally gave up and gave the meat away in my ice chest. That was the last straw for me. That along with several expensive hunting items was all I could take. He would not answer my phone calls last week so i texted him that if my freezer was not loaded with meat and a new 150 quart ice chest was not at my house by this past Sunday when I got home from the camp he better have his clothes out and not come back. I returned Sunday and there was no meat and ice chest so all his clothes are now in the laundry room and he has not come back. My wife said she feels bad cuz he has no where to go but he has had 2 years to find something and between partying and gamblinghe never has a penny at the end of the month. The only bill he has is a cell phone bill and he doesnt even have a penny saved. I dont feel bad for him at all, i feel disrescpected and angry to have been taken advantage of for so long thinking I was helping somebody but I have learned he is a compulsive liar and obviously has no respect for the people that have tried to help him out.
I know he is your brother but take it from me,the longer you let him stay and get away with things the harder it becomes to take action and make him leave. You are not doing him any favors or teaching him anything though you are probably like me and thinking you are. My hardest part is it was not my brother it was my wifes so i was fighting 2 battles,one with him and one with my wife. I dont mind helping anyone out but when people constantly dont try and help themselves that is when my patience run out.
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