You're not going to stop bullying in schools, or anywhere for that matter - look at forums and tell me you aren't surprised at some of the attacks and comments thrown at people over a silly topic, and these are grown men.
What needs to be instilled is confidence and feeling af acceptance and self worth as the fellas said before. When young minds have that, they don't turn to killing and suicide.
A boy that raises himself or is without a meaningful man in those younger years is going to feel like he has to prove himself all the time. It sounds like he has a head on him because he lets it escalate instead of flying off immediately, but he will need even further attention and guidance by you to instill in him that what those guys say is absolutely dust in the grand scheme of life - there will always be folks like that, and successful, happy people are well distanced from those that act like that. He needs to reach a point where inside he laughs and acknowledges their ignorance and finds it entertaining, much like we that hold jobs and go through life peacefully do.
You are the man in his life and that is the ultimate position and opportunity to do your part in society and raise an upstanding, successful citizen that could otherwise turn into a menace, and they do the majority of the time when a father is not there.
My oldest is the son of a deadbeat dad that's never seen him - the book Raising a Modern Day Knight is an awesome read for you. It's helped me more than anything else. Short read too, but to the point. If you want it I can send it to you, just PM me.
Sorry for the long post!
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