I wished there was a recipe that made this easy.......It's just not there.........
I've just watched too many make a wrong turn.
I have surrounded mine with good men......men of all shapes, sizes, colors, interest and backgrounds.....but all good men in thier own rights. I think it helped.
I was lucky........very lucky.
My oldest was a challenge, and if we pulled in you parking lot with both my boys, you would see a clear difference. One is tatted up from his finger tips to his neck.
But, he works hard now, he made the turn.
In fairness he is my bonus boy, he hated to hunt.....loved to shoot.
His safe is all black and plastic, mine is all wood and bluing..
do whatever you can to respect what they want to be and what they like.
It's a give take.
Eman, I have watched my inlaws enable their son for years now. He is 44 and cannot survive on his on.
What I see in that is, he is killing them......literally killing them.
Tough love is hard, but you have to do it. Especially for the good kids you influence.
It's hard to be a good kid these days....too much focus on "not leaving anyone behind" and everyone getting a trophy.
Good kids are placated at best and down right taken for granted.
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