SaltyCajun.com lake Area Marine

Notices

Go Back   SaltyCajun.com > General Discussion Forums > General Discussion (Everything Else)

General Discussion (Everything Else) Discuss anything that doesn't belong in any other forums here.

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old 12-06-2017, 09:13 PM
duckman1911's Avatar
duckman1911 duckman1911 is offline
Sailfish
 
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Otis
Posts: 4,062
Cash: 4,759
Default I don't know what to do or say.

I posted about a few months back about my friends wife being diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian and liver cancer. She passed. Her husband has been a life long friend which made her my sister. Only 38 and with 2 children. I feel bad becausr when I talk to him it's the same stuff he has heard a 100 times today. Heaven will shine brighter for having her. She was such a wonderful lady.
Reply With Quote
  #2  
Old 12-06-2017, 09:22 PM
Smalls Smalls is offline
King Mackeral
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: South Central LA
Posts: 2,784
Cash: 3,549
Default

Man, sorry to hear that, and sorry for your friend's loss. Sometimes there is nothing that can be said. Sometimes the only thing, and best thing, is to just be there when that person needs someone.

My wife (then girlfriend) lost her mom 6 years ago this month. Only 3 days before Christmas. It was a tough week. I had lost my dad when I was 12, so I understood the feeling. I also knew that there wasn't anything I could say that would make it better. But I was there for her and her family (I barely knew her mom, because she had been sick almost the entire time we had been dating and was in the hospital in Houston). I knew the one thing that family probably needed more than anything was just someone to be there and to be strong for them.

It may not seem like much, but sometimes, that's all someone needs.

Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G920A using Tapatalk
Reply With Quote
  #3  
Old 12-06-2017, 09:27 PM
simplepeddler's Avatar
simplepeddler simplepeddler is offline
Ling
 
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: saint amant
Posts: 3,417
Cash: 1,279
Default

My sister lost a child 11 years ago now.........nothing could be said to her that would ease her pain. In fact ........words became war in her mind........I just told her then and now that I love her.

She said that I stand in the gap for her.........the gap between those that have lost a child and those that have not........

Stand in his gap
Reply With Quote
  #4  
Old 12-06-2017, 10:12 PM
duckman1911's Avatar
duckman1911 duckman1911 is offline
Sailfish
 
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Otis
Posts: 4,062
Cash: 4,759
Default

Their son will be 12 in 2 weeks and now he doesn't have his mom. I changed the little turds diapers at one point. I hurt so bad for him.
Reply With Quote
  #5  
Old 12-06-2017, 10:23 PM
Dogface Dogface is offline
Flounder
 
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Lafayette, La.
Posts: 1,424
Cash: 4,121
Default

Sorry for you and your friend. I have lost both parents and a sister. I remember the people that showed up and put their arms around me at the time I was hurting but I don’t remember anything that anyone said. Just be there for your friend and his family and you won’t have to say anything.
__________________
A gun is like a parachute, if you need one and don?t have one you will never need one again....
Reply With Quote
  #6  
Old 12-06-2017, 10:36 PM
Smalls Smalls is offline
King Mackeral
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: South Central LA
Posts: 2,784
Cash: 3,549
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by duckman1911 View Post
Their son will be 12 in 2 weeks and now he doesn't have his mom. I changed the little turds diapers at one point. I hurt so bad for him.
Same age my BIL was when their mom passed away. He was never a very emotional kid to begin with, but I think he bottles up even more now.

Not that I'm any better. Losing a parent at that age changes you. If he's got good people around him, he'll be ok. Nothing can replace that parent though.

Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G920A using Tapatalk
Reply With Quote
  #7  
Old 12-08-2017, 02:38 PM
duckman1911's Avatar
duckman1911 duckman1911 is offline
Sailfish
 
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Otis
Posts: 4,062
Cash: 4,759
Default

I was talking with my wife this morning about which suit I was gonna wear for her services tommorow and when it really sank in why we were having that discussion I had to sit down. Never in a million years would I have ever thought I would be having that discussion. Such a beautiful person inside and out. She was a nurse because she liked to help people. The world is a little less bright for loosing her.
Reply With Quote
  #8  
Old 12-08-2017, 02:42 PM
duckman1911's Avatar
duckman1911 duckman1911 is offline
Sailfish
 
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Otis
Posts: 4,062
Cash: 4,759
Default

She was my only sister. Not by blood but my sister none the less.
Attached Images
File Type: jpg FOT75EC (1).jpg (46.5 KB, 214 views)
Reply With Quote
  #9  
Old 12-08-2017, 03:40 PM
Feesherman Feesherman is online now
King Mackeral
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: Moss Bluff
Posts: 2,495
Cash: 333
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by duckman1911 View Post
She was my only sister. Not by blood but my sister none the less.

God needed another angel
Reply With Quote
  #10  
Old 12-08-2017, 03:49 PM
duckman1911's Avatar
duckman1911 duckman1911 is offline
Sailfish
 
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Otis
Posts: 4,062
Cash: 4,759
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Feesherman View Post
God needed another angel
She certainly was that. She went to school to be a nurse because she liked to help people. She could have played the trophy wife but it wasn't who she was. Believe me she did not do it for the money. Girl wearing a Rolex and driving any car she wanted. She was just a generous soul and loved to help people. A truely compassionate person that is gone from thos world way to soon.
Reply With Quote
  #11  
Old 12-08-2017, 04:37 PM
sugardad sugardad is offline
Flounder
 
Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: parks,la
Posts: 80
Cash: 264
Default

Sorry for your loss man, prayers for you and her family. Very beautiful woman, way too young, but like said, god needed her more than on earth. Blessing to yall.😔🙏🏻
Reply With Quote
  #12  
Old 12-08-2017, 06:21 PM
eman eman is online now
Swordfish
 
Join Date: May 2009
Location: Baton Rouge
Posts: 6,021
Cash: 242
Default

There's really nothing you can say at this moment. All you can say is i'm there if you need anything. And stand by your words.
Reply With Quote
  #13  
Old 12-08-2017, 10:39 PM
cajun bill cajun bill is online now
Tripletail
 
Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: Lafayette
Posts: 783
Cash: 292
Default

Having lost my mom when I was 12 and my grandson when he was 11 months old, I can honestly say that nothing heals such a loss except time and prayer. Just continue to be there for your best friend and just listen, listen, listen.
Reply With Quote
  #14  
Old 12-08-2017, 10:47 PM
duckman1911's Avatar
duckman1911 duckman1911 is offline
Sailfish
 
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Otis
Posts: 4,062
Cash: 4,759
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by cajun bill View Post
Having lost my mom when I was 12 and my grandson when he was 11 months old, I can honestly say that nothing heals such a loss except time and prayer. Just continue to be there for your best friend and just listen, listen, listen.
Man I am so sorry to hear that. Having my 1st grandbaby I could not imagine the thought of loosing her. Everyone told me your grandkids will become your world. I thought it was bs. It wasn't. They steal your heart. Sorry for your loss.
Reply With Quote
Reply

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump


All times are GMT -5. The time now is 09:02 PM.



Powered by vBulletin®
Copyright ©2000 - [ARG:3 UNDEFINED], Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
vB.Sponsors
vBCredits v1.4 Copyright ©2007 - 2008, PixelFX Studios
SaltyCajun.com logo provided by Bryce Risher

All content, images, designs, and logos are Copyright © 2009-2012,
Salty Cajun, LLC
No unathorized use is permitted
Geo Visitors Map