Good advice fool!! Practice what ya preach hommie!! Not only will that aviod making tricycle motors but will keep you from gettn sumptn penicillin wont take off!!:eek::eek: Educate abt de (gona herpa sypha aids)!!!!:help:

No it doesn't make you a man. But at age 13 they feel like it does. They are growing up. Let him here it from his dad, not from a sex ed teacher, kids at school or anywhere else. My wife and I had our kids together, raised them together. I didn't let a scout leader, teacher, or anyone else take over that job. Have a heart to heart, man to man talk with him. You will be nervous but you will do okay. You will do okay because you love him and show him that. My son hated me sometimes but later he thanked me for not letting him run wild like some of his buddies. Good luck.

Worst thing you can do is not talk about it. My parents never told me a thing about it, gave me a book to read. Lost mine at 16 she was 15. Had no clue what I was doing. Knew enough to use a rubber. I ended up alright.

Tim, take him to get a burger or whatever he likes and lead in with, I know a lot of kids your age are exploring sex now and I think we should talk about it.

You are getting lots of good advice here. There is no right way to do this. You know him best. Don't be accusatory or opionated about it. He needs a Dad/friend. If you don't talk to him about sex, he will learn it from his friends.

We all did it. Some earlier than others, some more often. That does not mean it is ok. I would try not to let him know how you found out. But talk to him. We all have desires, but have to use self control or risk destroying our marrige, family, friends, finances. When I talk to my kids about any thing, I talk about it from several different points of view, his, mine, friends, GOD. I personally am catholic. If you are not a practicing christian, it is never to late to start. Unmarried sex is a sin in all christian religions (I THINK). My friend is a nurse. They tell their kids the horror stories: pregnacies, diseases, drunk driving fatalities and injuries, drug over doses, etc. I got a book at a christian book store. It gives advice for kids of all different ages. Most of the books are not written from a religious stand point. Its more of a how to talk to your child and about what to talk about. It is possible to let them know you are disappointed in a kind manner so that it will encourage open and honest communication between yall. Good luck and I will keep your family in my prayers.

I would also look up pictures on the net of STD'S , DRUG OVER DOSES (I know of one that got high and thought roaches were all over him. He sprayed raid in his mouth up his butt then rodded him self out with a toilet brush. He had lots of reconstructive surgeries.), and alcahol related accidents.

parenting help on a fishing board?!?!?!? Hmmmm.....

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my parents were ministers, when I was growing up, My mom spent time counseling pregnant moms who were considering abortions and tried to divert them to other options like adoption, everytime I took a girl out, My dad would tell me "REMEMBER THAT GIRL IS A DAUGHTER OF GOD, YOU BETTER TREAT HER THAT WAY!" I guess those were the voices in my head, plus when I was in High School, all my friends made some stupid mistakes, I learned from them, avoid the situation all together and things can't go wrong!

Not with my daughter...it ain't!

Don't be shocked by what comes up here.

That's debatable. :rolleyes:

When my son was 13, he was playing the field & I did not even know it but my wife did, she ended up having the sex talk with him,bought a box of condoms for him & even showed him how to use them on a banana. I was shocked & thought our boy would be embarassed as hell to his mother teaching him all this,but she said he was cool with it, now he goes to her with questions instead of me.

I hope she put the raincoat on the banana. ;) :D

Guys, thanks.....sounds like we'll be having a Burger and some root beers together somewhere this weekend......my old man tried to talk to me as a teen and it was awkward and to late. I don't want that to happen here......I hope that because I'm not his real dad ill have an impact......

Guys, one more thing. The lets bring this to the Gill net crap is ridiculous. I needed to see whatvwas said here. Thank you for calming down so it wasn't moved. Next time you wanna do that with a thread, make sure the original poster is premium so that he Can still access his thread.....


My wife and I are NOT ok with how fast he is progressing thru this stage of his life.....I'm sure there is a happy medium between "do it and your **** will fall off" and "go get em son"........

Thanks to all that replied. Especially you simplepeddler and deerfarmer. Y'all had what I needed to hear......

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Yeah....That came out kinda wrong!!!

I'm afraid to ask her.

OMG
 

Haven't laughed that hard in a longgg time.

I needed that.

Dink, let's take him fishing sometime.

EVO

Dink take him snapper fishing and say, speaking of snapper....

Paul, Paul, Paul

He wants to educate him, not scare him














;-)

We need to Paul......maybe ill drag him down your way and we can cruise in your aluminum?

I could see him now........I caught this fish, and now my fingers smell like Lauren........weird!!!

It's ok, even he knows I can't catch fish. LOL

More time to talk. :)

EVO

Well, ifn yall want to go, I'll take yall

That works, the reds should be here any day.

EVO

That's an idea! I just hope they have that 2nd split. :o

EVO

Now we are getting corney.





as in dog

What.......What....... I ment so he wouldn't have to wait until next summer to have his talk.

EVO

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Where where where. Haha we still need to go fishing.


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You work all the time and I never work. We can't seem to get on the same schedule. ;) the barrier should be really heating up any day now.

EVO

My mom was the one who brought the topic up to me..... 8th grade. Some of the kids got caught doing stuff at a party.....parents talked to eachother and lots of parents were pissed!lol
Anyway, I respected my mom alot for her talk. I knew that she was trying to explain the facts bc she wanted me to b informed and prepared.
I guess that between my mom talking to me & my southern baptist upbringing i put alot of emphasis on holding onto my virginity until i was totally ready for the responsibility & actions.I decided in 10th grade that I was gonna wait till I felt comfortable with sex and was with the right girl b4 I had sex..... Took a while. Lol
Not trying to sound cool but I passed alot in college.... Just wasnt ready..... I learned other ways to please the ladies. Lol
But when I made the jump and gave it away I was old enough and mature enough to accept responsibility. I dont regret waiting one bit!! One of my best decisions ever!!

Give him like some words of the day

Boner
Taco
One eyed Willie
Making bacon

Im not sure if Id let him know you went through his phone. He might loose his trust for you.It definatly needs to be talked about though.Personally I think you should wait for marriage.I didnt and had two girls at age 19 with a girl I cant stand!! I got full custody of my two girls when they were 2 and 3 and still have them today!Most guys at that age would run and not accept the responsibility of their actions.Children born out of wedlock usually have a pretty rough life.One parents usually not around and nothing can heal that pain.Im sure since he is your stepson he can relate to broken homes so maybe that will help.Talk to him about how a girl should be respected and that girls that sleep around are not.Good luck with this one,there was good and bad advice on the thread so I hope it works out for ya!

Not the best advice but kids are gonna be kids no matter how much you " talk" to them. Just need to have a sit down about protection and let life and hormones take it from there. You can't punish him or he will rebel even more! Be honest with him. That is the best you can really do.

A lot of the advise here seems to be something I would expect you do with a 15 or 16 year old. Im not sure what I would do about my 13 year old. Thats really young. Tough one.

my dad never talked to me about it, but my mom would always say "no hanky panky" and it seemed to work

Man this scares me, my little girl is 3 so that means i only got 8 more years. God better make me a different man before that time comes or i may wind up in jail for beating a little kid

for real man... i don't know what i'd do if would find out this kind of stuff about my kid. I don't have one but phew.... May be bad. Kid might not see any light for a few months.

Dink I don't know how to get your kid to stop, but I wish you the best of luck and if you do figure anything out. Please share!

I was always given tough love, so I'd probably give that back. Tell your kid if he wants to start having sex, your going to have to grow up get a job, pay for your own schooling, groceries and everything else. Then somehow scare him to believe that if he does it again the chances of him having a kid will improve each time and that a condom is a 50/50 chance of not getting a kid pregnant. Also someone brought up the threat of having the females dad kick his little butt which I thought was good advice. Like I said no one really had any talk with me and I think I was a pretty darn good kid. Mom and Dad just always made it clear that I better not embarass them in any way or they'd embarass me more.

BAM! Thats the ticket right there. I was threatend with my life (to an extent) to be respectful and polite...otherwise I'd get my azz handed to me. I knew no other way!

We need to trade jobs. Lol


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Luckily I wasnt very good at "spittin game" when I was a kid so its hard to get a girl pregnant when the opportunity to doesnt even exist lol. As far as advice goes Dink, I say take him up to Petes, yall take a seat at the bar and get some abita root beers, and just have a good ol fashion heart to heart. Real casual non aggressive conversation. Maybe give him some "when I was your age....." examples (maybe stretch the truth a little). And if he doesnt take the hint there is always scare tactics: "if you get a girl pregnant, you gotta quit school and get a job, then you gotta find a place to live because there wont be any baby raisin goin on here!". No just kiddin, dont let him know you went through his phone thats for sure.

gooooogle an image of an STD and that will scare the bejesus outta him. a lot of good ideas here dink... let us know how it goes. prayin for ya!

Thanks guys.....and girl. Checked it again today. I must say, the boys got game!!!!

What worries me the most is that he reminds me of me........I'm gonna try to be the "big brother" that he doesn't have.....the fine line between dad and friend is to fine for me to see, so I came up with the brother thing.....

What y'all think of having a few of his friends there too?? They are like a second family to me since they're always around......it may lighten the mood a little and get them talking. Then after I can pull him aside and talk in private???

I wouldn't talk to the other kids it's not your responsibility and may be over stepping boundries

I think you should lighten your mood with a few drinks before you start this, I know I would have to lol.

AWESOME POINT!! I don't think anyone has mentioned that yet. Good job. I know I would HATE it if my parents would of done that!

i see your good intentions with having the friends around, but in this case I'd say no friends man. I'm just trying to think on how i would of liked my dad to do this and I think I'd rather it just me and him. I think may dad would of said something "look man I've been hearing some rumors of you and some girls and I don't like what I'm hearing and I'm going to ask you to stop before you get yourself into some trouble."

Or something along those lines.. nonaggressive yet assertive in a way. Just do your thing bro, I hope it goes well Tim! I know its gotta suck and the ugly thing is it'll probably suck even more by the time i have a kid and he/she is 13...

Every situation is unique. You know him better than he knows himself, most likely. Make the call on how ya handle it. I'm sure you'll do fine with it. We all enjoy your joking ways but, I am certain that you can be serious when needed and, I'm sure you have been and will continue to be a positive roll model in his life.