Here's my experience. 1st marriage lasted 11 years. Feb-Sept romance. We moved in together after I had been in a bad m/c accident. She got pregnant, we got married. 2 daughters, they were 10 and 7 when I couldn't take it anymore and left.
Tried counseling, realized that would not work, as the counselor just wanted me to "remember" the "abuse" I had obviously suffered as a child. Plus, she had huge breasteses and I couldn't stop looking at them. LOL.
I did a lot of stuff wrong, and so did she, we both changed a lot. I was making darn good money then, and stopped going straight home after work. I guarantee you that I wasted over $50,000 in 2.5 years on drinking, gambling, and strippers. It took a while to patch up my relationship with my girls, but everyone is good now.
Marriage number 2 will be 10 years this November. We were friends and co-workers for about 5 years before we started dating. She knew all about the stuff I had done, but she knew it was out of my system and we were good to go. Every now and then she will ask me something about if I had any desire to do any of that again. I just answer "Why go out for hamburger when you have filet mignon at home?" I haven't been to a strip club in 12 years, and every once in a while I'll stick $5 in a poker machine.
She fishes, lets me hunt all I want, we do nearly everything together.
Another thing, lawyer, get a good one. I don't care how amicable it may start out, her friends are gonna hammer her about what a piece of crap you are and she should take you for every penny she can. Trust me on this one, "HELL HATH NO FURY LIKE A WOMAN SCORNED!"
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