Daughter getting hitched

[Zachary Boy]

My daughter just got engaged this weekend and my wife is ready to start planning. My question is should I expect to spend $10,000, 15 or more? I thought about offering her $10k to elope :*****:

[meaux fishing]

depends on how fancy her vision is... my gf's sister just got a $2K dress and she was looking a one that cost twice that

[DUCKGOGETTER]

Offer to pay for the justice of peace alot cheaper. Jk

[wtretrievers]

Originally Posted by DUCKGOGETTER

Offer to pay for the justice of peace alot cheaper. Jk

You laugh! We did that Saturday! "I Do" & were thru, now let's go eat!
$150 for about 2 minutes! I thought that was high!

[Zachary Boy]

Originally Posted by meaux fishing

depends on how fancy her vision is... my gf's sister just got a $2K dress and she was looking a one that cost twice that

That's what has me nervous. I call her WAP (white American princess) She has champagne taste and I have beer budget...

[wtretrievers]

Need to pull soon to be son in law off to the side & say now here's the deal brother make sure it happens like this.......while spinning the cylinder on .357

[Lake Chuck Duck]

May want to establish a budget. I know every man wants to give their daughter a dream wedding but there is no sense in going into debt over it.

[DUCKGOGETTER]

A freind of mine from creole went to the justice of piece to get married, but spent over 4k for the reception. That was a crazy party.

[PUREBAY2200]

U got 2 options here. I just got married so I'll throw my 2 cents n.
Both require a budget.
Once u have a budget make Ur offer.
Offer #1
have a small wedding, 1/2 of What Ur budget is . The other half can go toward purchasing a home.
Option #2
have a huge wedding, spend all of the budget and wish em the best.

I think alot of people would think long and hard about thier options..... It may sound great to you.... And it may sound redicilous.
But those are 2 options!!

Congrats to u and your daughter!!!

[Zachary Boy]

Thanks fellas for all the great advice. And for those of you with young children, start saving now because time flies by...

[joshdomingue]

i'm getting married next May .......... we didnt get any options, but her dad gave her a 10k budget(which i thought was crazy). Just our reception is like 5k and the photographer is like $1500. But if given the option to take the money i would have done my best to convince her to and we would get married somewhere tropical!!

[southern151]

Man, y'all spoiled!!! Wife and I got married, cost me all of it! I think her parents paid for the reception dinner which was about $400. Can't remember who paid for it now...Getting drunk got me married and now, staying drunk keeps me married! It also causes memory fade! LOL

[eman]

Originally Posted by wtretrievers

Need to pull soon to be son in law off to the side & say now here's the deal brother make sure it happens like this.......while spinning the cylinder on .357

All well and good WT, But you know the only thing that the groom knows about the wedding is ,What time to show up.
We did the JP route too. 27 years ago they were like priest . You just gave them some $. Was no set charge
Z Boy, Decide what YOU can Afford and tell them both. (Bride and Mom) that this is what i can spend . Then sit the bride and future SIL down w/o mom and offer to pay for a small JP wedding and give them the balance as a wedding present.( We took the second option).
I have seen to many bridezillas and Momzillas that can't agree on what to do and the bride ends up in misery and future hubby learns early.
If the wife aint happy, you aint happy.

[joshdomingue]

Originally Posted by eman

All well and good WT, But you know the only thing that the groom knows about the wedding is ,What time to show up.
We did the JP route too. 27 years ago they were like priest . You just gave them some $. Was no set charge
Z Boy, Decide what YOU can Afford and tell them both. (Bride and Mom) that this is what i can spend . Then sit the bride and future SIL down w/o mom and offer to pay for a small JP wedding and give them the balance as a wedding present.( We took the second option).
I have seen to many bridezillas and Momzillas that can't agree on what to do and the bride ends up in misery and future hubby learns early.
If the wife aint happy, you aint happy.

You got that rite!!!!

[specktator]

I'm getting married in February. My fiance spent about $2500 on dress. Church costs $200, would have been $1000 if her mom didn't teach at the school church is connected to. Reception is close to $8-9k for drinks, food, and Petroleum Club. And flowers are a few grand. Pictures are like $1500-2000. Crazy! Glad I aint gotta pay for it.

[Raymond]

Originally Posted by specktator

I'm getting married in February. My fiance spent about $2500 on dress. Church costs $200, would have been $1000 if her mom didn't teach at the school church is connected to. Reception is close to $8-9k for drinks, food, and Petroleum Club. And flowers are a few grand. Pictures are like $1500-2000. Crazy! Glad I aint gotta pay for it.

You are, you just don't realize it Yet.

[bigdaddy]

My inlaws offered us a small wedding and two acres of land or a big wedding and good luck. couldnt convince the wife the value of two acres so we had the big wedding now she gets it 15 years later imagine that

[wtretrievers]

Originally Posted by Raymond

You are, you just don't realize it Yet.

Bahahahahaha!!!!!!!!!!

[YellowMouth7]

My F-I-L gave us a 20K budget and the option to use it how ever we wanted....I wanted to go to FLA and spend $500 on a wedding and the other $19,500 on a month long fishing trip in teh keys.

TB

[southern151]

Originally Posted by YellowMouth7

My F-I-L gave us a 20K budget and the option to use it how ever we wanted....I wanted to go to FLA and spend $500 on a wedding and the other $19,500 on a month long fishing trip in teh keys.

TB

And, how did it really work out?