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duckman1911 06-02-2014 08:00 PM

Am I Too Old School????
 
What is wrong with a young man asking a young ladies father permission to have interaction with his daughter?
I think it builds character in a young man to have a fathers permission before engaging in interaction with his daughter.

mriguy 06-02-2014 08:09 PM

Depends on the interaction

Quackhead62 06-02-2014 08:09 PM

I don't think there is anything wrong with that at all. Let's u see his true colors.

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SULPHITE 06-02-2014 08:15 PM

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Originally Posted by mriguy (Post 695165)
Depends on the interaction

Lmao! I do believe if we told a girls father of our true "interactions" most of probably would not be breathing and typing tonight..;)

Goooh 06-02-2014 08:17 PM

Am I Too Old School????
 
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Originally Posted by SULPHITE (Post 695169)
Lmao! I do believe if we told a girls father of our true "interactions" most of probably would not be breathing and typing tonight..;)


^^ for sure, and we would never have had any interactions... Those who made it out alive would be virgins

SULPHITE 06-02-2014 08:19 PM

On a serious note...our basic moral fibers are just shreds now due to social media and the likes just too easy for young ins to interact in other ways

duckman1911 06-02-2014 08:20 PM

They're 15 and live 3 hours apart. I still believe that even an internet and or text friendship should be asked of and approved of by a young ladies father.

Bluechip 06-02-2014 09:53 PM

Yea..... Your too old school Dad.

duckman1911 06-02-2014 10:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Bluechip (Post 695243)
Yea..... Your too old school Dad.

Quite possible.
That being said no one who has ever met my son has ever had a bad word to say about him.

Bluechip 06-02-2014 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by duckman1911 (Post 695251)
Quite possible.
That being said no one who has ever met my son has ever had a bad word to say about him.

And I don't doubt that your son is a fine gentleman....as I raised mine the same way.

But I noticed with my daughter I had to be a little more gentle because she would get all emotional and upset and would not want to talk to me.....

So I approached it from the aspect of how special a daughter is to a father. And that I'm not trying to embarrass her by wanting to meet her "man" upfront.

I told her that a dad expects his son to do right because I taught him but I don't know what to expect out of her "man" because I did not teach him.

This helped break the ice. Don't make the situation uncomfortable for her. When you finally meet or talk to her "man", don't brow beat him but just explain how precious she is to you and as a father, you are her protector and you would like to get to know him a little better.

Don't get him on the phone and scare him, just have a father/boyfriend talk with him. Whatever you do, keep the communication line open with your daughter.

Don't be enough of a hard azz that she won't come to you when or if she does have a problem or a situation where she may need her fathers advice. If your an azz hole, she will never come to you because she knows you will fuss.

You can fuss at boys, but you have to love on your daughters while you fuss at them or they will close you out of their life.....

duckman1911 06-02-2014 10:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Bluechip (Post 695260)
And I don't doubt that your son is a fine gentleman....as I raised mine the same way.

But I noticed with my daughter I had to be a little more gentle because she would get all emotional and upset and would not want to talk to me.....

So I approached it from the aspect of how special a daughter is to a father. And that I'm not trying to embarrass her by wanting to meet her "man" upfront.

I told her that a dad expects his son to do right because I taught him but I don't know what to expect out of her "man" because I did not teach him.

This helped break the ice. Don't make the situation uncomfortable for her. When you finally meet or talk to her "man", don't brow beat him but just explain how precious she is to you and as a father, you are her protector and you would like to get to know him a little better.

Don't get him on the phone and scare him, just have a father/boyfriend talk with him. Whatever you do, keep the communication line open with your daughter.

Don't be enough of a hard azz that she won't come to you when or if she does have a problem or a situation where she may need her fathers advice. If your an azz hole, she will never come to you because she knows you will fuss.

You can fuss at boys, but you have to love on your daughters while you fuss at them or they will close you out of their life.....

Been there with our daughter. Its now our sons turn. I just want him to understand what a man expects of a young man asking for a relationship with his daughter. You respect her at all times.

BuckingFastard 06-03-2014 06:15 AM

i always went and met the parents. although most of the time the relationships are kept a secret from the parents.

Country Boy 06-03-2014 12:08 PM

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Originally Posted by duckman1911 (Post 695271)
Been there with our daughter. Its now our sons turn. I just want him to understand what a man expects of a young man asking for a relationship with his daughter. You respect her at all times.


Yep same here with my son and I tell him every time he goes over to visit to shake her dad's hand when he gets there and leaves.


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duckman1911 06-03-2014 12:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Country Boy (Post 695425)
Yep same here with my son and I tell him every time he goes over to visit to shake her dad's hand when he gets there and leaves.


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It builds character.

Visco 06-03-2014 12:29 PM

[SIZE=3]My daughter always brought her boyfriend's home "for the most part" to introduce them to me IF they did not already know me. Fortunately/Unfortunately being a US Marine most of the young men my daughter dated were also Marines and most of them had already heard of me in one way shape or form. I noticed and so did my daughter that if they did not immediately want to come see me then they were not worth it and she would get rid of them soon. My daughter ended up marrying my sons best friend (Marine) which in my opinion was the best choice a little sister could make. [/SIZE]

Lake Chuck Duck 06-03-2014 04:21 PM

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Originally Posted by duckman1911 (Post 695271)
Been there with our daughter. Its now our sons turn. I just want him to understand what a man expects of a young man asking for a relationship with his daughter. You respect her at all times.

You taught your son to ask for permission from the dad before he ties a girl up? lol just pickin

My daughter turns 5 this month and already I dread the days that I have to start dealing with this crap. Like most people say, "its not her I am worried about..."

Cletus3173 06-03-2014 05:04 PM

My son is 18 and I raised him to meet the parents. I have a 4 and 1.5 year old girls. I hope I get shown the same respect. If not, guess I will cross that bridge then.


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